Hi there! I'm trying to find out what works best here on Not the Marrying Kind, and I'd really like your help. I've created a short survey in order to get some feedback on what goes on with my wee small blog. I have a lot of lurkers that visit, seemingly consistently, but are silent observers. I respect silence on blogs, but if you could please break your silence in a completely anonymous way and let me know what you think of some stuff around this, here stretch of the internet, that would be oh, so wonderful! You can access the survey here and it will be up until July 15th. I will probably remind you about this on a daily basis, so please don't get mad at me, k? (PS. A.P. told me that nobody would fill out my survey. Help me prove him, and all men, wrong by sticking it to him. Seriously. Go here.) And thank you to those that have already filled it out! Your feedback is very helpful!
So, I've had some people ask me about my garden, and what I'm growing, what I'm growing them in, etc. I had to go into work today to do some gardening, so I figured today was a good day to take some pictures, and check on the bunnies.
It is a hot, sunny day in Chicago today, and even though rain is in the forecast, it's clear out right now. It was the perfect day to garden, and I was happy to get out there and take care of some stuff.
So first, let me tell you about what I'm growing and what kind of space I'm working with. First off, I should tell that I inherited this space, and though I plan on expanding the garden this year, I'm only planting in the raised beds I inherited. The beds are 8.5 ft x 4.5 ft, and are not in the best shape. I anticipate they will last me for another two or three years before the wood in some of them needs to be replaced. Total, I have 9 raised beds, one of which has a small tree in it. Ideally, I'd like to get that tree out, but my team and I decided to put flowers in there, which made them happy. Am I the only one who likes to garden mostly vegetables and fruit?? Flowers are nice, but not at all what I'm into growing. I like plants with a purpose.
We started all of our seeds inside the greenhouse, and everything that we've grown has been from seeds, with the exception of one tomato plant that A.P.'s coworker donated. We put it in the garden since a storm a few weeks back knocked out one of our tomato plants. We've lost all but two of our squash plants (we had something like 10 or 15), and we've lost all of our pumpkin plants (we had about 10) due to storms, pests, and shock from being replanted in the garden. We also lost about five corn plants because of a violent storm that hit Chicago last week (the one that made everyone pile into a tunnel at O'Hare). Since then, I've taken more precautions against both pests and storms. We still have about 7 corn plants that are waiting to get transplanted, so hopefully we won't have our pumpkin problem with the corn. We also lost a couple of cucumber plants RIGHT after I put them in last week. So, this past Monday, my team and I worked to secure bird netting around those plants. They are looking good, now. Here are some pictures of the plants when they were still in the greenhouse.
Here are some pictures of the garden, and what's growing in it.
Here's me with the peppers and cucumbers in the background (I forgot to take a picture of this bed). There are three cucumber plants on each end, and 12 pepper plants in the middle. There are six regular sweet pepper plants, and six peperoncini plants. They are in milk jugs for two reasons: storms and pests. Those will be removed later when the plants get a little bigger and stronger.
These are our tomatoes and sweet onions. You can also get another view of the cucumbers and peppers from this angle. The tomatoes on the left are cherry tomatoes and on the right we have green zebras, with one red Roma that was swapped in after a storm knocked out a green zebra. These plants are currently caged only on the sides with sticks holding up the tomato plants. Next week, we're swapping out the sticks (which the plants will outgrow soon) and the cage for tomato cages only. From everything I've read, rabbits and squirrels won't mess with onions. We had squirrels digging up the bulbs when we first planted them, but they wouldn't do anything. They just left the bulbs there, so I would just replant them. Since then, we haven't had any problems.
This bed houses our squash plants and our green beans. The green beans are just peeking through the ground, so you can't really seem them, but all but one is growing. The squash plants are...sad. You can see the two on the right are yellowing and not doing too hot. I put five of those in last week as seedlings, and something pulled out three of the plants. Those are the only two left and they are not looking too hot. I'm hoping they'll go the route of the tomatoes and look lousy for a week, and then get nice and big. There is another plant on the right which you can't see, but which is looking really good. And the one on the left is looking okay, too. I bought about five replacement plants from Home Depot, but the heat of the past two days knocked 'em out a bit. I am reviving them and will put them in next week.
So, this is the hoop house, or the bunny birthing center, whichever you prefer. If you remember, it had plastic on it when we first built it. But now, what survived (a handful of beet plants, a row of radishes and a row of turnips) is growing nicely and loosely covered by burlap to shade the plants a bit. The radishes are beyond ready to pull, but the baby bunnies are preventing us from going in there and pulling them. Hopefully they won't be nibbled on by the babies! (Don't worry...I have a ton of baby pics from today...I'll post them a bit further down, along with story of the one we named Scamper.)
These are our watermelon plants. Again, they are currently growing in the milk jugs. They are still fairly small, which will be interesting. It seems like these plants look like such little things and then one day I will go in and they'll have boomed. That happened with our beet plants. They were so small and sad and then this week, they just boomed. They're huge now and have big, beautiful leaves (perfect for bunnies, I'm sure). So, I'm hoping that these guys boom soon, otherwise it will be a sad, little watermelon season. There are only four, though we have two more we may put in on the other side. Corn will be planted in the middle of both this bed. I read that corn and squash or melon plants grow well together. As much as possible, I've tried to do some serious companion planting here. The onions and tomatoes were another companion pair I'd read about.
This is what's left of our corn/pumpkin bed. Monday we had about two pumpkin plants left, and today none. It looks like something got to them, since the containers also had two in them, and those are knocked over and empty. We have giant crows and hawks (yes, we have hawks in the city) that litter our area, so one of them could very well have helped the squirrels or rabbits decimate what was left of an already decimated bed. Last Tuesday, this bed had four or five pumpkin plants, that were looking okay, and five corn plants. We have about three sad corn plants left, but I may be pulling them next week anyway. They're not in very good shape. There's one I think will hang on and survive, and it's right smack in the middle. The pumpkins are a huge disappointment, as we were planning on selling them in the fall as a fundraiser. This means I may have to either plant directly in the garden OR cave and buy some from a nursery. I haven't seen any so far, though, so we'll see if that's even a possibility.
Finally, this is the flower bed with the tree in it (and a team member's arm and leg). You can also see the sad replacement squash plants I bought at Home Depot. I watered them all morning, and brought them home to care for them over the weekend. Now, they're all perked up and happy. So far, there's not much in this bed. We're still hardening off some Zinnias and Marigolds, which we'll probably get put in either next week or the week after. We're a bit lazier about the flowers, no doubt. What is planted in here are some Begonias and Petunias I bought at Home Depot last week so I could blow the last of the grant money. We also have some Celosia, Poppies, and Painted Daisies that we grew from seeds. It's going to be a hot mess of colors and not one matching shade! I'm not a very good landscape artist, I suppose.
We have two more beds that are waiting for some plants. One, we planted in today. We planted spinach, mesclun greens, Four Seasons lettuce, and broccoli. Those will hopefully nice and big when I go back into work after the holiday. In the mean time, we watered the hell out of the bed, and laid plastic over it to create a greenhouse-like environment for the seeds to grow. I'll go back and water between now and next week, but I'm hoping the seedlings will pop a little bit quicker, like they did in the hoop house.
The last bed is a bit of a mystery. It might become a weird mishmash of leftover plants, or I might break down and buy some new stuff from Home Depot. We for sure have some baby broccoli in the green house, along with cherry tomatoes, a couple of leftover cucumbers, and watermelons. We started out with so many plants (see some old pics below), it made my head explode a bit, and now, we've had so many problems (cold snaps, thunder storms, tornado-like winds, rabbits, squirrels, birds, etc.) that I'm almost like a plant hoarder, keeping them in the greenhouse just in case. I'll take some more pictures of the garden again in a couple of weeks so you can see the progress and what else we decided to put in.
Now, on to the thing you really care about: the baby bunnies! Today, when we checked on the bunnies, their eyes were open! They were so cute, and the mother had removed the grass/fur ball that covered them. They were just there, ready to roam my bed.
I took my dog Radar in to garden, too, which he loved. He's now a pile on the couch as I type. He's absolutely exhausted! He wore his little gardening/camping vest, and we put him in things to amuse ourselves. He helped us out by following us everywhere and being super cute. We were worried he'd find the bunnies and attack, but he was very good.
When we finished gardening, we went back to check on the bunnies one last time, and they were everywhere! They were wandering around the bed, exploring everything.
I was worried about watering the plants, but figured I'd just do what I'd been doing which is to sort of drown the one side and hope it would seep over. So while I was watering the plants, I see one rabbit jump out of the bed and go running towards the building. I was like a surgeon people! Code red! I yelled to a team member, "Get me some gloves!" so that I could touch the thing without my scent getting all over it. Then we cornered the little thing and after struggling with the quick sucker, I scooped it up. At first, he was super freaked out, but I pet him a little and he chilled out. We took some pictures before putting him back into the bed with his brothers and sisters. We then named him "Scamper," and said good-bye. We don't anticipate the babies will be there next week, but we'll see. I will probably go back between now and then and take some more photos, but it definitely seems like the mama wants them to explore the world.
I hope you guys will forgive me for this long post, but I figured it's best to get it all done in one post. Then anything else will be a quick update! Perhaps next week, I'll give you a proper photo tour of the greenhouse, too! It's a little bit messy at the moment.
(All Photos by me!)
6.30.2011
Zazzle Now, Garden Later
Hi there! I'm trying to find out what works best here on Not the Marrying Kind, and I'd really like your help. I've created a short survey in order to get some feedback on what goes on with my wee small blog. I have a lot of lurkers that visit, seemingly consistently, but are silent observers. I respect silence on blogs, but if you could please break your silence in a completely anonymous way and let me know what you think of some stuff around this, here stretch of the internet, that would be oh, so wonderful! You can access the survey here and it will be up until July 15th. I will probably remind you about this on a daily basis, so please don't get mad at me, k? (PS. A.P. told me that nobody would fill out my survey. Help me prove him, and all men, wrong by sticking it to him. Seriously. Go here.) And thank you to those that have already filled it out! Your feedback is very helpful!
Guys, yesterday I spent the entire day setting up a Zazzle store. Vacation brain has officially set in! What's up? Check out what I made though! A whole line of "I give good pins" merchandise. You know you want it! Or you know you want to pin it! Check it out:
There's a bunch of other stuff in there, too! Mugs, men's burnout tees, mousepads, and a poster. All are of simple design, with the phrase "I give good pins" in navy, and in a pinterest-style font. My favorite is the button! Oh the irony of wearing a PIN that says "I give good pins." Pinterest would be proud!
Okay, guys, I'm off to go garden. I'm taking lots of pictures today (and the dog!), and when I come back I'll post a proper post with some gardening photos. In the mean time, go get yourself an "I give good pins" pin...it's $2.45! You can't beat that!
(All images via Not the Marrying Kind's Zazzle Store)
Guys, yesterday I spent the entire day setting up a Zazzle store. Vacation brain has officially set in! What's up? Check out what I made though! A whole line of "I give good pins" merchandise. You know you want it! Or you know you want to pin it! Check it out:
There's a bunch of other stuff in there, too! Mugs, men's burnout tees, mousepads, and a poster. All are of simple design, with the phrase "I give good pins" in navy, and in a pinterest-style font. My favorite is the button! Oh the irony of wearing a PIN that says "I give good pins." Pinterest would be proud!
Okay, guys, I'm off to go garden. I'm taking lots of pictures today (and the dog!), and when I come back I'll post a proper post with some gardening photos. In the mean time, go get yourself an "I give good pins" pin...it's $2.45! You can't beat that!
(All images via Not the Marrying Kind's Zazzle Store)
6.29.2011
Wedding Wednesday: Our (Post-) Engagement Shoot Plan
Hi there! I'm trying to find out what works best here on Not the Marrying Kind, and I'd really like your help. I've created a short survey in order to get some feedback on what goes on with my wee small blog. I have a lot of lurkers that visit, seemingly consistently, but are silent observers. I respect silence on blogs, but if you could please break your silence in a completely anonymous way and let me know what you think of some stuff around this, here stretch of the internet, that would be oh, so wonderful! You can access the survey here and it will be up until July 15th. I will probably remind you about this on a daily basis, so please don't get mad at me, k? (PS. A.P. told me that nobody would fill out my survey. Help me prove him, and all men, wrong by sticking it to him. Seriously. Go here.) And thank you to those that have already filled it out! Your feedback is very helpful!
So, June's Friday dances were filled with engagement shoots, all of which I had banked away as inspiration for our own engagement shoot, which over a year after our wedding, we still haven't done. I was dreading doing it for so long because I simply had no ideas for what to do. But with the help of this, this, this, and this, I finally cobbled together a plan of action for our (post-) engagement shoot.
We probably won't shoot until later in the summer/early fall. We have a busy summer (and I'm sure Theresa does, too), and I want to lose a little weight. Plus, I want to get some fun props together to style up the shoot. (Duh. Of course I do.) But in terms of what we will be doing, well...
First up, is the Fireside Bowl, a little bowling alley on the northwest side of Chicago that also has live bands play sometimes. It's a cute, retro bowling alley. A.P. and I are not what you would call good at bowling. In fact, we suck. But, we love it. When I was in college, during summer breaks I would bowl with my coworkers every Wednesday night at Marigold Bowl, a bowling alley close to my house that was so 70's, it hurt. It is the bowling alley seen in Return to Me. Marigold closed a long time ago, but Fireside is a pretty good substitute. It's also not too far from our hood, which makes the shoot feel more "us."
From there, we'll go a little south to Margie's Candies, an old fashioned ice cream/candy shop in Logan Square/Bucktown. Years ago, my friend came into town and we went here and got amazing giant ice creams and took all these silly pictures in wigs. I lost all those pictures when I lost that camera in the back of a cab. Sniff. Sniff. Please accept these photos instead.
And we'll end the shoot with a picnic in Humboldt Park. It's not Logan Square, which is what we're closest to, but it's much grander than Logan Square, which is pretty much a square. Humboldt Park has a lagoon, and pretty little nooks and streams. It's perfect for a pretty picnic in the park. Now, to find a good vintage picnic basket...
(Fireside photos via Yelp; Interior Margie's Candies Photos via Yelp; Exterior Margie's Candies Photo via here; Humboldt Park Photos via Yelp)
So, June's Friday dances were filled with engagement shoots, all of which I had banked away as inspiration for our own engagement shoot, which over a year after our wedding, we still haven't done. I was dreading doing it for so long because I simply had no ideas for what to do. But with the help of this, this, this, and this, I finally cobbled together a plan of action for our (post-) engagement shoot.
We probably won't shoot until later in the summer/early fall. We have a busy summer (and I'm sure Theresa does, too), and I want to lose a little weight. Plus, I want to get some fun props together to style up the shoot. (Duh. Of course I do.) But in terms of what we will be doing, well...
First up, is the Fireside Bowl, a little bowling alley on the northwest side of Chicago that also has live bands play sometimes. It's a cute, retro bowling alley. A.P. and I are not what you would call good at bowling. In fact, we suck. But, we love it. When I was in college, during summer breaks I would bowl with my coworkers every Wednesday night at Marigold Bowl, a bowling alley close to my house that was so 70's, it hurt. It is the bowling alley seen in Return to Me. Marigold closed a long time ago, but Fireside is a pretty good substitute. It's also not too far from our hood, which makes the shoot feel more "us."
From there, we'll go a little south to Margie's Candies, an old fashioned ice cream/candy shop in Logan Square/Bucktown. Years ago, my friend came into town and we went here and got amazing giant ice creams and took all these silly pictures in wigs. I lost all those pictures when I lost that camera in the back of a cab. Sniff. Sniff. Please accept these photos instead.
And we'll end the shoot with a picnic in Humboldt Park. It's not Logan Square, which is what we're closest to, but it's much grander than Logan Square, which is pretty much a square. Humboldt Park has a lagoon, and pretty little nooks and streams. It's perfect for a pretty picnic in the park. Now, to find a good vintage picnic basket...
(Fireside photos via Yelp; Interior Margie's Candies Photos via Yelp; Exterior Margie's Candies Photo via here; Humboldt Park Photos via Yelp)
6.28.2011
Look What's Growing in My Garden!
Hi there! I'm trying to find out what works best here on Not the Marrying Kind, and I'd really like your help. I've created a short survey in order to get some feedback on what goes on with my wee small blog. I have a lot of lurkers that visit, seemingly consistently, but are silent observers. I respect silence on blogs, but if you could please break your silence in a completely anonymous way and let me know what you think of some stuff around this, here stretch of the internet, that would be oh, so wonderful! You can access the survey here and it will be up until July 15th. I will probably remind you about this on a daily basis, so please don't get mad at me, k? (PS. A.P. told me that nobody would fill out my survey. Help me prove him, and all men, wrong by sticking it to him. Seriously. Go here.) And thank you to those that have already filled it out! Your feedback is very helpful!
Last Tuesday, I was doing a little gardening, which has suffered many problems, but will hopefully start freaking thriving soon. The carrot/beet seed replanting was mostly a bust. The intense heat we had and then crazy storms were just too much. Our turnips and radishes are enormous though, and this week the beets started to get big and beautiful, too. Anyway, these veggies are in the hoop house, whose plastic has now been replaced by loosely hung burlap to keep the critters out and shade the plants a bit.
Last Tuesday was my last day at work before vacation, and I'd mostly wrapped up my projects. I had a couple of hours to kill, so I decided to go out to the garden and work alone. I sometimes do this, and I love it. I drag the tools out, throw on my gardening clogs, which I now just leave at work, and I just garden the shit out of everything. So this day, I was gardening the shit out of the hoop house, making sure that bitch was weeded, when I saw a clump of grass. I couldn't figure out why it was there, so I picked it up and threw it on the ground. I went back to continue with my savage, take no prisoners weeding, when I saw eyeballs! I freaked out and jumped backwards. A building security guard who was taking his smoke break near the garden saw me and came running. We peeked around and determined it was a nest of...something. We couldn't figure out what, though, since they were hairless and small. Their little eyes weren't even open yet. He went back later and determined from their tiny ears that they were baby rabbits.
I was kind of freaking out about what to do since this was sort of a nightmare for me. Since I took on this giant project, pests have been my number one concern and my number one frustration. I feel like Bill Murray in Caddyshack. But I decided I'm not a bunny killer, so I figured I'd let them grow up, accept whatever damage they did, and then gate that mofo when they leave. In the mean time, my team and I are having a ball checking on them. I've taken to calling the hoop house "the birthing center." And in my spare time, I make some awesomely crass jokes about bunnies breeding in my turnip plants. There seem to be about four or five, and their nest gets a little bit bigger every time I check on them, which is killing me on the inside.
Today when I went into work to garden, the mother was in the hoop house. I didn't do anything to scare her, but the second time I walked by to peek on her, she flew out of there so fast. I didn't go back to the hoop house after in case she was watching me from a distance. I didn't want her to see I'd found her secret stash of babies. But I have! And secretly, I like to think of them as my bunnies. Here are some pictures from this past Saturday, and the last one is from today. I apologize for their not so greatness. These bunnies picked the perfect location for their covert birthing center. They are right up against the wood, under the giant turnip plants, and shaded by the burlap. Also, can you believe that in less than a week, they got fur! I'll update you guys some more on the garden later this week.
(Photos by me!)
Last Tuesday, I was doing a little gardening, which has suffered many problems, but will hopefully start freaking thriving soon. The carrot/beet seed replanting was mostly a bust. The intense heat we had and then crazy storms were just too much. Our turnips and radishes are enormous though, and this week the beets started to get big and beautiful, too. Anyway, these veggies are in the hoop house, whose plastic has now been replaced by loosely hung burlap to keep the critters out and shade the plants a bit.
Last Tuesday was my last day at work before vacation, and I'd mostly wrapped up my projects. I had a couple of hours to kill, so I decided to go out to the garden and work alone. I sometimes do this, and I love it. I drag the tools out, throw on my gardening clogs, which I now just leave at work, and I just garden the shit out of everything. So this day, I was gardening the shit out of the hoop house, making sure that bitch was weeded, when I saw a clump of grass. I couldn't figure out why it was there, so I picked it up and threw it on the ground. I went back to continue with my savage, take no prisoners weeding, when I saw eyeballs! I freaked out and jumped backwards. A building security guard who was taking his smoke break near the garden saw me and came running. We peeked around and determined it was a nest of...something. We couldn't figure out what, though, since they were hairless and small. Their little eyes weren't even open yet. He went back later and determined from their tiny ears that they were baby rabbits.
I was kind of freaking out about what to do since this was sort of a nightmare for me. Since I took on this giant project, pests have been my number one concern and my number one frustration. I feel like Bill Murray in Caddyshack. But I decided I'm not a bunny killer, so I figured I'd let them grow up, accept whatever damage they did, and then gate that mofo when they leave. In the mean time, my team and I are having a ball checking on them. I've taken to calling the hoop house "the birthing center." And in my spare time, I make some awesomely crass jokes about bunnies breeding in my turnip plants. There seem to be about four or five, and their nest gets a little bit bigger every time I check on them, which is killing me on the inside.
Today when I went into work to garden, the mother was in the hoop house. I didn't do anything to scare her, but the second time I walked by to peek on her, she flew out of there so fast. I didn't go back to the hoop house after in case she was watching me from a distance. I didn't want her to see I'd found her secret stash of babies. But I have! And secretly, I like to think of them as my bunnies. Here are some pictures from this past Saturday, and the last one is from today. I apologize for their not so greatness. These bunnies picked the perfect location for their covert birthing center. They are right up against the wood, under the giant turnip plants, and shaded by the burlap. Also, can you believe that in less than a week, they got fur! I'll update you guys some more on the garden later this week.
(Photos by me!)
6.27.2011
Marriage Mondays: Little Joy
Hi there! I'm trying to find out what works best here on Not the Marrying Kind, and I'd really like your help. I've created a short survey in order to get some feedback on what goes on with my wee small blog. I have a lot of lurkers that visit, seemingly consistently, but are silent observers. I respect silence on blogs, but if you could please break your silence in a completely anonymous way and let me know what you think of some stuff around this, here stretch of the internet, that would be oh, so wonderful! You can access the survey here and it will be up until July 15th. I will probably remind you about this on a daily basis, so please don't get mad at me, k? (PS. A.P. told me that nobody would fill out my survey. Help me prove him, and all men, wrong by sticking it to him. Seriously. Go here.) And thank you to those that have already filled it out! Your feedback is very helpful!
For our first dance, we were going to rock out to M. Ward's "To Go Home," a song A.P. put on a mixtape he made me between our first and second dates. In those early months of our relationship, I associated that song with how I felt about A.P. To me, he was steadfastly becoming my home, where I went when things were tough. And, the chorus was exactly how I felt about my commitment to him: "I'll be true to you. Oh yeah, you know I will. I'll be true to you forever or until...I go home."
So when it came time for our wedding, we started practicing dancing...but not to our chosen dance song. A.P. was not a confident dancer, so we started dancing together at home to whatever dance music I could get him to dance to (that's where Friday dances came from...did you know that?). We were so worried about his general dance skills, that we sort of forgot about the most important dance we'd do that night. The one where everyone stares at you and takes pictures! Eek!
About a month before the wedding, we tried to do a dance to "our song." Ummm...yeah. It was freaking hard! That song is really fun to listen to and be silly to, but not so easy to choreograph a dance to! We got really busy with the wedding, and sort of forgot. So, about a week before the wedding, my friend, the Half-breed Swede, came into town and among many other awesome things, she helped us put together a new dance to our new song, "Brand New Start" by Little Joy.
In so many ways, that song actually defines our relationship. I mean, I could rattle on forever, people, which is what made it a great second choice. But the band's name is perhaps my favorite thing. In our house, it's all about the little joys. We don't go out all the time or have big, expensive moments. We do that sometimes, and those are nice, but we're homebodies. We like to spend our free time with one another, at home with our animals, making stupid jokes.
I know I said that this post would relate to Sex and the City, but it doesn't. That post I decided to save for another day because today is all about how I can't wait for A.P. to come home so we can watch The Bachelorette and make fun of everyone and be silly. These are the little joys, the things that kill me. These are the stolen moments that are inexplicable to the outer world. These are the little knots that keep a marriage strong. The ability to be still with someone, to have stupid, little jokes that no one else gets or thinks are funny. I feel like a lot of what A.P. and I do is laugh, and that's because he makes me laugh. But if you asked me to recall a single joke he made, I couldn't. Ironically, last week, a coworker and I had this conversation:
Coworker: You're funny. I bet your husband is funny, too.
Me: Did you say my husband is funny?
Coworker: Yeah, he'd have to be to be married to you.
I paused, trying to remember a funny story to tell her to prove A.P.'s hilariousness, but couldn't think of a specific thing that would be funny to her. So instead, I said..
Me: Yeah, he is funny. But not as funny as me! [Insert shit-eating grin here.]
And sadly, though this is 90% of our life, I have no pictures of this. I did scrounge up these few photos, though. Here are some little joys around these here parts, enjoy!
What are the little joys in your relationship?
(Photos by me)
For our first dance, we were going to rock out to M. Ward's "To Go Home," a song A.P. put on a mixtape he made me between our first and second dates. In those early months of our relationship, I associated that song with how I felt about A.P. To me, he was steadfastly becoming my home, where I went when things were tough. And, the chorus was exactly how I felt about my commitment to him: "I'll be true to you. Oh yeah, you know I will. I'll be true to you forever or until...I go home."
So when it came time for our wedding, we started practicing dancing...but not to our chosen dance song. A.P. was not a confident dancer, so we started dancing together at home to whatever dance music I could get him to dance to (that's where Friday dances came from...did you know that?). We were so worried about his general dance skills, that we sort of forgot about the most important dance we'd do that night. The one where everyone stares at you and takes pictures! Eek!
About a month before the wedding, we tried to do a dance to "our song." Ummm...yeah. It was freaking hard! That song is really fun to listen to and be silly to, but not so easy to choreograph a dance to! We got really busy with the wedding, and sort of forgot. So, about a week before the wedding, my friend, the Half-breed Swede, came into town and among many other awesome things, she helped us put together a new dance to our new song, "Brand New Start" by Little Joy.
In so many ways, that song actually defines our relationship. I mean, I could rattle on forever, people, which is what made it a great second choice. But the band's name is perhaps my favorite thing. In our house, it's all about the little joys. We don't go out all the time or have big, expensive moments. We do that sometimes, and those are nice, but we're homebodies. We like to spend our free time with one another, at home with our animals, making stupid jokes.
I know I said that this post would relate to Sex and the City, but it doesn't. That post I decided to save for another day because today is all about how I can't wait for A.P. to come home so we can watch The Bachelorette and make fun of everyone and be silly. These are the little joys, the things that kill me. These are the stolen moments that are inexplicable to the outer world. These are the little knots that keep a marriage strong. The ability to be still with someone, to have stupid, little jokes that no one else gets or thinks are funny. I feel like a lot of what A.P. and I do is laugh, and that's because he makes me laugh. But if you asked me to recall a single joke he made, I couldn't. Ironically, last week, a coworker and I had this conversation:
Coworker: You're funny. I bet your husband is funny, too.
Me: Did you say my husband is funny?
Coworker: Yeah, he'd have to be to be married to you.
I paused, trying to remember a funny story to tell her to prove A.P.'s hilariousness, but couldn't think of a specific thing that would be funny to her. So instead, I said..
Me: Yeah, he is funny. But not as funny as me! [Insert shit-eating grin here.]
And sadly, though this is 90% of our life, I have no pictures of this. I did scrounge up these few photos, though. Here are some little joys around these here parts, enjoy!
What are the little joys in your relationship?
(Photos by me)
Be back shortly
Hi guys! I'll be posting the Marriage Monday post later today (around 4pm CST). I apologize for the tardiness, but I am sick as a dog. And I have to go into work, and do a couple of things, plus go mail off my final grant report.
I'd like to ask you a big favor, in the mean time. I'm trying to find out what works best here on Not the Marrying Kind, and I'd really like your help. I've created a short survey in order to get some feedback on what goes on with my wee small blog. I have a lot of lurkers that visit, seemingly consistently, but are silent observers. I respect silence on blogs, but if you could please break your silence in a completely anonymous way and let me know what you think of some stuff around this, here stretch of the internet, that would be oh, so wonderful!
You can access the survey here and it will be up until July 15th. I will probably remind you about this on a daily basis, so please don't get mad at me, k? (PS. A.P. told me that nobody would fill out my survey. Help me prove him, and all men, wrong by sticking it to him. Seriously. Go here.)
Ugh...the one day I have things I have to do, and all I want to do is lie on my couch and watch reruns of Sex and the City. Which, btw, I am rewatching from the beginning, and also which ties in to today's Marriage Monday post. Totally fun! See you in a bit!
(Photo via here)
I'd like to ask you a big favor, in the mean time. I'm trying to find out what works best here on Not the Marrying Kind, and I'd really like your help. I've created a short survey in order to get some feedback on what goes on with my wee small blog. I have a lot of lurkers that visit, seemingly consistently, but are silent observers. I respect silence on blogs, but if you could please break your silence in a completely anonymous way and let me know what you think of some stuff around this, here stretch of the internet, that would be oh, so wonderful!
You can access the survey here and it will be up until July 15th. I will probably remind you about this on a daily basis, so please don't get mad at me, k? (PS. A.P. told me that nobody would fill out my survey. Help me prove him, and all men, wrong by sticking it to him. Seriously. Go here.)
Ugh...the one day I have things I have to do, and all I want to do is lie on my couch and watch reruns of Sex and the City. Which, btw, I am rewatching from the beginning, and also which ties in to today's Marriage Monday post. Totally fun! See you in a bit!
(Photo via here)
6.24.2011
Tiny Dancer
This might be a tiny Friday dance. I had my first guitar lesson last night, and my fingers are killing me! Still. After four hours. They're numb and it hurts to type. I hope that means I'm doing something right. How can I play Garden Dash and Pin things if it hurts to type?
This is the last week of my engagement shoot inspiration (You can view previous weeks here, here, and here.) This beautiful shoot was done by Megan W. Photography and was featured a while back on Ruffled. Megan is based in Indiana, in case you're in that neck of the woods and need an amazing photographer. I've perused her blog (as I tend to do before I post photos here), and let me tell you, she can capture emotion so well! Her photos are filled with so much love and are also gorgeous to look at. This particular engagement shoot was shot in an ice cream parlor, which not only makes for a beautiful background, but also is so romantic, no? Banana split for two? Share a shake? Such a sweet idea!
So gorgeous, right? Love her dress, too! Next week, I'll be sharing with your our engagement shoot plan (part one of which is for me to lose some weight this summer). We are probably going to wait until later in the summer when weddings slow down a bit to contact our photographer, but at least now we have an idea of what we want to do. For a while, I wasn't even sure we would be able to do that.
Anywho...this weekend is all about relaxing! We have nothing planned, and I'm officially on vacation. The only thing I'm thinking is that I might have to go in to water the garden, but that's easy. Did I tell you we have a nest of four or five baby bunnies in my turnip plants? I discovered them the other day when I was weeding the bed. Seems like a hoop house looks like a birthing center to the bunnies that roam my garden. What are you up to this weekend? Anyone doing anything fabulous?
In the mean time, here are your dance moves for the week:
I love the singer Ryan Adams. In fact, my goal song for my guitar class is a Ryan Adams song (Please Do Not Let Me Go from Love Is Hell). When I have a baby, will someone please buy me this onesie? It's making my head explode right now. And P.S. if you don't know who Ryan Adams is, please give him a listen. He's awesome, even if he hasn't made an album really since he married Mandy Moore. In fact, to further convince you, I've posted a video below of the song that made me realize he's awesome because he took a song I've never really understood or liked and made it super (excuse my language) fucking hot to me. This song is like porn for your ears, ladies. It's wicked hot!
Have you seen this salvaged wood wall that's been making the rounds? Pure awesome.
Mimi's response to this week's Marriage Monday post. Love it!
Some of these alternative headboards are so appealing, they're making me want to ditch my bed! I especially like the old doors!
I see a lot of maternity series, my favorite being this one. But I love the idea of doing this sweet little book, too.
Seven simple steps to an inexpensive wedding
I'm obsessed with braids (and proudly always have been since the time I tried to be like Monica and have braids all over my head), so I'm loving these summer braid trend tutorials.
The importance of showing up.
And don't forget Simply Bridal's 15% off discount code for Not the Marrying Kind readers!
And here's your Ryan Adams video. It's a cover of Oasis's Wonderwall, and it is beautiful. Enjoy the weekend!
(Friday Dance Photo via Seychelles; Ice Cream Parlor Engagement Shoot by Megan W. Photography via Ruffled)
This is the last week of my engagement shoot inspiration (You can view previous weeks here, here, and here.) This beautiful shoot was done by Megan W. Photography and was featured a while back on Ruffled. Megan is based in Indiana, in case you're in that neck of the woods and need an amazing photographer. I've perused her blog (as I tend to do before I post photos here), and let me tell you, she can capture emotion so well! Her photos are filled with so much love and are also gorgeous to look at. This particular engagement shoot was shot in an ice cream parlor, which not only makes for a beautiful background, but also is so romantic, no? Banana split for two? Share a shake? Such a sweet idea!
So gorgeous, right? Love her dress, too! Next week, I'll be sharing with your our engagement shoot plan (part one of which is for me to lose some weight this summer). We are probably going to wait until later in the summer when weddings slow down a bit to contact our photographer, but at least now we have an idea of what we want to do. For a while, I wasn't even sure we would be able to do that.
Anywho...this weekend is all about relaxing! We have nothing planned, and I'm officially on vacation. The only thing I'm thinking is that I might have to go in to water the garden, but that's easy. Did I tell you we have a nest of four or five baby bunnies in my turnip plants? I discovered them the other day when I was weeding the bed. Seems like a hoop house looks like a birthing center to the bunnies that roam my garden. What are you up to this weekend? Anyone doing anything fabulous?
In the mean time, here are your dance moves for the week:
I love the singer Ryan Adams. In fact, my goal song for my guitar class is a Ryan Adams song (Please Do Not Let Me Go from Love Is Hell). When I have a baby, will someone please buy me this onesie? It's making my head explode right now. And P.S. if you don't know who Ryan Adams is, please give him a listen. He's awesome, even if he hasn't made an album really since he married Mandy Moore. In fact, to further convince you, I've posted a video below of the song that made me realize he's awesome because he took a song I've never really understood or liked and made it super (excuse my language) fucking hot to me. This song is like porn for your ears, ladies. It's wicked hot!
Have you seen this salvaged wood wall that's been making the rounds? Pure awesome.
Mimi's response to this week's Marriage Monday post. Love it!
Some of these alternative headboards are so appealing, they're making me want to ditch my bed! I especially like the old doors!
I see a lot of maternity series, my favorite being this one. But I love the idea of doing this sweet little book, too.
Seven simple steps to an inexpensive wedding
I'm obsessed with braids (and proudly always have been since the time I tried to be like Monica and have braids all over my head), so I'm loving these summer braid trend tutorials.
The importance of showing up.
And don't forget Simply Bridal's 15% off discount code for Not the Marrying Kind readers!
And here's your Ryan Adams video. It's a cover of Oasis's Wonderwall, and it is beautiful. Enjoy the weekend!
(Friday Dance Photo via Seychelles; Ice Cream Parlor Engagement Shoot by Megan W. Photography via Ruffled)
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