10.19.2011

Wedding Wednesday: Autumn Wedding Inspiration

In keeping with my fall themed posts. If I hadn't gotten married in spring, it would have been an autumn wedding for sure. As you know, it's my favorite season! Here's some pretty fall wedding decor!

Apple Cider in Apples! (I might do this just for the hell of it!)

Harvest Chair Decor for the Bride and Groom

Blankets for your guests if you're getting in one of the last outdoor weddings!

Caramel Pears (These are then dipped in coarse sugar, but why not give some sea salt a try?)





(All Photo Credits linked above)

10.18.2011

Photo Takin'

I am still sad it's not the weekend anymore. And yes, I'm aware that it's Tuesday. The thing is, I had such a busy weekend and it went by so fast that I felt like I never even had a weekend! Friday, I worked until almost 6pm, then gave a friend a ride that was really out of my way. Needless to say, I didn't get home until almost 7pm! I curled on a single couch cushion and fell fast asleep until 8:30. I was exhausted.

Then, on Saturday I went to the pumpkin patch with the little boy I used to nanny and my friend and her nephew (who is my other friend's son...I'm friends with these three, awesome sisters). It was a blast, but totally exhausting. I picked him up at 10am and I brought him home at 4pm, then I stayed and visited for a couple of hours and held their teeny, tiny new baby. It was seriously like holding a sack of flour. It's unreal that we all started out so small! Blows my mind every time I hold a newborn. Again, I came home and collapsed, this time in bed. I slept for three hours.

Finally, on Sunday, I woke up early to head east to the Chicago Photography Center, where I took an all day film photography class. A while back, I bought a Groupon for any one of the bootcamps that the CPC offers and I finally cashed it in on Sunday. I've wanted to upgrade to a DSLR for a while, but told myself that I couldn't do that until I took a photography class. I figured it was in my best interest to learn how to get the most out of a DSLR before investing over a month's rent into one. The CPC offers a few different bootcamps, but when I saw the film photography one, I jumped for joy.

The thing is, I always wanted to take photography, even in high school. But I didn't dare do it because, well, to be blunt, photography is an expensive hobby. I never felt comfortable asking my mother to purchase a camera for me and in college I was too broke to buy my own. I always thought I had a good eye for images and balance. I felt like I've seen so many beautiful things that would have made gorgeous photographs, but couldn't do anything about them except admire them since I had no money for a camera.

In high school, during our annual student interest week, where you could take various mini-courses that interested you, I took the photography class. It was really a brief lecture on photography. I had so many questions, but was told by the photography teacher that I really should take a course because there was no way I could really learn the answer to all my questions without taking a course. That, of course, was something I knew I couldn't do. So, I took what little information I walked away with and borrowed a camera from a friend and shot a roll of film. I couldn't keep the camera beyond a week, so I didn't get much in the way of practice. In fact, most of the pictures were blurry and not very good (see exhibit A below). Still, there was one photo that made me not give hope (see exhibit B below). That made me decide that when I could afford it, I would take on photography as a hobby.

Exhibit A


Exhibit B

In 2009, I bought my first SLR. After doing a lot of research, I decided that the best film SLR for me to learn on would be the classic Canon AE-1. After doing a lot of eBay stalking, I paid a mere $35 for a beautiful, Canon AE-1, along with two lenses, and a flash pack. That's right, people. I'm awesome. But when the camera arrived, I was too unsure of what I was doing (and a little out of practice with film), so it sat, unused for almost two years.

About three years ago, though, I purchased a digital camera that was somewhere between a point and shoot and a DSLR, meaning that it had lots of manual features, but you couldn't go completely manual. I bought the camera so that I could learn a bit more about photography, but it wasn't until last year when I took a photo safari class that I really learned how to operate and use the camera to its full potential.

So, fast forward twelve years from high school, and I think I can finally say that photography is one of my hobbies, especially since I finally took a film photography class! The class was small with only seven people. This certainly wasn't an extensive course, but it was still pretty intensive. Since I shoot fairly exclusively on manual now on my semi-DSLR, I was pretty familiar with the language of f-stop and shutter speed. I'm never great at the correlation between the two, but I get better at understanding the limits every day. This knowledge and practice made the beginning part of class a lot easier for me. After I got used to using the (heavy) film camera with no digital feedback, I felt pretty confident about the shots I was getting. Of course, there was always the possibility that the pictures turned out to be total duds, but I still felt like I was getting some good stuff.

I walked down Lincoln Ave. towards St. Alphonsus church with a couple of the girls from class. We split up there and I wandered around Lincoln Ave, taking pictures of the church and various old buildings on Lincoln. Eventually I met up with another classmate. We walked down to the Paulina Brown Line stop and I took some shots under the El tracks.

The second half of class was spent learning how to process film (lots of gentle shaking and chemistry) and then learning how to develop the negatives in the darkroom (patience and precision). The whole thing gives you gratitude for modern technology and things like one hour photo machines! It's tedious and can easily go wrong, but I loved it. We made contact sheets for our negatives and then we got to make two prints. I snuck in a third, which was nice, though of course I now wish I had developed a different image. Rats.

My contact sheets from class
Anyway, I probably won't get the opportunity to be in a dark room any time soon, but I'm so glad I took the class. I feel a lot more confident about my photography skills. Not only was I able to give some of my classmates help/feedback, but the teacher loved one of my photos. My negatives were also definitely some of the best, in terms of consistency with exposure. I didn't have any shots that were too bright or too dark, a common initial error with at least half of the class. Instead, what frustrated me was the balance of some of my shots. Still, I think I ended up with a good amount of fairly decent shots and a couple of really good ones. Don't get me wrong. I'm not Ansel Adams. But it made me realize can finally count photography as a real hobby, something I do and am actually decent at (and only getting better!).

I'm excited to use the Canon AE-1 some more, though the next batch of photos I take I'll have to get developed. I've got a project I'd like to try out before the end of the year. I promise I'll keep you posted! In the mean time, enjoy my three prints from yesterday's class. The first two were my best and the third I wanted to print because I wanted to see what it looked like since I worked for a while to get that shot. Instead I wish I'd printed another photo of a shopping cart next to the church.

Under the Paulina Brown Line Tracks
The stairs of St. Alphonsus (this was the one my teacher liked)
A planter on the street. (I loved the textures in this photo.)


(All Photos by me!)

10.17.2011

Marriage Mondays: What Constitutes Cheating

Last week, A.P. and I went over to my brother's house to hang out. While there, he told us a story about his friend who was arguing with his wife. Apparently, his friend, who we'll call Chester (stole that idea from here, btw, because when I was looking for funny boy's names, I came across this site and was all PERFECT!) was sexting/text flirting (I'm not sure what specifically was said) with a girl who'll call Random Broad. Chester's wife, who we'll call, Precious Angel (again, got it from here because I almost peed my pants at the thought of a real couple named Chester and Precious Angel) found said texts and understandably so, threw a fit. Either she slept somewhere else for a while or he did, but either way, she was pissed enough to temporarily separate. My brother proceeded to tell my other brother that if you're going to do something like that, you should at least be smart enough to password protect your phone. Meanwhile, I sat there in disbelief as my brother said such an asinine thing.

I didn't say anything. I figured arguing with my brother wasn't worth it. But A.P. and I talked about it later. We both agreed that what Chester did to Precious Angel was pretty freaking lame, plus it was disrespectful to Precious Angel and his relationship with her. The question is, did he cheat?

Years ago, my other brother and I had a discussion about cheating. He confessed he'd cheated on a girlfriend of his that I had particularly liked. I couldn't understand why and he didn't seem to be very remorseful of his behavior. He told me that the relationship was basically over anyway and that things hadn't been working out, so he'd cheated. But then he asked me an interesting question and one I've never forgotten: Does it count as cheating if you never get caught? He phrased it under the same guise as the proverbial tree falling in the woods. If no one is there to catch you before, during, or after the act of cheating, is it really cheating? My answer was an emphatic yes, because, I asserted, every person has a conscious and in the end, you'd have to live with the fact that what you did was potentially incredibly hurtful to your significant other. He, of course, argued that it might technically be defined as cheating, but that the reality is that that behavior is only being unfaithful if you get caught.

The argument infuriated me and has stayed with me ever since. However, the older I get, the more I sort of see what he's saying. Let's be clear, I am in NO WAY advocating cheating (don't use me as your scapegoat, people. I don't dig it. Not at all.), but I think that the complications and subtlety of being an adult in a very sexual world (where flirting sometimes gets you everywhere) make this argument a little more convincing.

Let's go back to Chester and Precious Angel for some clarification. Let's say all Chester sent was a flirty text. Let's assume there was nothing sexual about it, just some flirty banter between Random Broad and old Chester. Was Chester cheating? I'd argue no, even though I'd probably be bothered by it. But it certainly wouldn't fall into the category of cheating, in my opinion. So, if Precious Angel hadn't found it, no harm no foul. But she did, considered it a form of cheating and an argument ensued. See? I don't agree with my brother's position, but now, as an adult, I get it.

What really makes his argument both true and irksome is that practically the same scenario works out if the texts were more than just flirty banter. If Chester had said something provocative and sexual to Random Broad and Precious Angel never finds out (and Chester never physically cheats), again, no harm no foul. It's neither fair to Precious Angel, nor is it right, but technically speaking, she goes on living in ignorant bliss and the text-cheating (or whatever you'd call it) disappears when he reaches his text limit and deletes them. Therein lies the rub.

Obviously, Chester has to live with what he did, but let's be honest. Men and women's definitions of cheating are often not aligned and Chester probably didn't think what he was doing was so bad. So, the question becomes what constitutes cheating? Obviously, if you have any kind of sex with someone else, you've cheated. I think we'd also all agree we wouldn't want our peep's lips on anybody else's, either. So, barring either of those two scenarios, what is considered cheating? Is what Chester did cheating in either scenario? Do you buy my brother's theory on cheating? And let's be clear, you don't have to agree with it; I certainly don't. You just have to, sort of, philosophically understand it. Chime in in the comments section!

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10.14.2011

Some Days You Gotta Dance

This week, I really have wanted to dance. We had a small party at work yesterday and I was the DJ. I realized that I was more interested in dancing than figuring what music to play for people. In general, I love, love, love to dance. I really wish A.P. was more into it, alas he's not a dancer. So, I very rarely get chances to dance. Yesterday, I totally busted a move. It was so much fun! And it made me miss real Friday dances, when A.P. and I would practice dancing before the wedding. Which is why, this week, instead of a Dance Friday photo, I'm posting one of my favorite commercials on TV right now. Excuse the ad for Lowe's and focus more on the adorable couple dancing their way through life (as they renovate home after home after home).



This week, I have the pleasure of showing you guys yet another submission. Remember Helen? Well, she and her wife are the wonderfully talented photographers behind Bettencourt Chase(they also have a blog where they post not only their photos but also the creative projects they undertake). When Helen and I started talking about her Other Side of the Aisle post, we also discussed the upcoming wedding and engagement shoots that she and Lindi were taking. As soon as she showed me where Rachel and Thomas were getting married, I called dibs. But, it's not the backdrop that makes this wedding beautiful...it's the true adoration between the lovely couple and of course, the beautiful photographs. Enjoy!


Are Rachel and Thomas not the sweetest?? Are those not the most beautiful pictures? I show a lot of color photos, but I really do heart black and white. And for whatever reason, I love Helen and Lindi's black and white photos. They're always so crisp and clear and well lit.

Speaking of photographs, I'm excited for my jam packed weekend! Sunday, I'll be taking a film photography boot camp. I love photography and consider it a hobby. I learn more every day, but everything I've learned has been digital. And I still don't have a digital SLR. So, I'm excited to work with an actual SLR where I can control all the settings instead of half (I currently shoot on a camera that is better than a point and shoot and has lots of manual features, but is not a SLR). I'm also super excited to go into the darkroom, something I've never, ever done. Last year, I bought a Canon AE-1 on eBay and I'm so excited to use it. Plus, I figure I'll learn a lot of tips and tricks to use with my digital camera, too. Yay for photography, people!

The other fun thing I'm doing is hanging out with the little boy I used to nanny. When I was in grad school, I nannied for a bunch of families, but the last year and a half was devoted just to one little boy, the son of a family friend. I started watching him when he was 5 mos. old. He couldn't even roll over yet. I watched him until he was about a year and a half, and this year he turned four! A week ago, his mom gave birth to a new baby boy and I figured it would be nice for me to offer up my old nanny skills and give them some time with the baby. So my little man and I are going to Horner Park in Chicago for their Pumpkin Patch celebration (if you're in Chicago and want to be surrounded by kids, come say hi! I may even tell you my real name. : ) ). It's complete with a petting zoo, hayrides, and carnival games. I'm excited to spend time with my little guy and do awesome, fun stuff (and basically get to be a kid again...my favorite part of nannying). I'm also excited to meet the newest addition to their little family. So yeah, this weekend is all about me. I'm not even sure what A.P. is doing (lol). But I'm sure he'll figure it out. Better question is what are YOU doing?? Whatever it is, have a wonderful weekend!

In the mean time, here are your dance moves for the week:


It's just you and me, baby!


This is scaring the crap out of me. It's so creepy and gross!

Like everyone else lately, I'm obsessed with elbow patches. But these take the cake!






Plus some great NTMK posts you might have missed in September:




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(Rachel and Thomas's wedding photographed by Bettencourt Chase Photography; Venue: Pratt Place Inn & Barn, Fayetteville, AR; Caterer: The Event Group)

10.13.2011

Three Weekend Looks for Fall

Come autumn, I'm all about the layers. Especially on the weekends! I like layers - long, cozy sweaters, comfy jeans, and soft t-shirts. It always makes me feel like snuggling up next to A.P. with a mug of tea and a good book. Here are three comfy, layered looks for fall! Paired with a sturdy pair of boots or a comfy pair of Uggs, you've got yourself an easy, Saturday outfit!

Club Monaco plunging neckline top £320 - brownsfashion.com

Miss Selfridge knit top £55 - missselfridge.com

Funktional draped top $168 - amrag.com

Madewell striped top $36 - madewell.com

Wildfox Couture screen print tee $64 - pinkmascara.com

Cotton polyester t shirt €44 - modekungen.se



What's your go to outfit for fall?

(Fashion Board made via Polyvore)

10.12.2011

Wedding Wednesday: Grand Gestures

Years ago, The Half-breed Swede and I went to a Rhett Miller concert at Chicago's Park West (which might be one of my favorite places to see a concert in Chicago). At one point, the audience got quiet as Mr. Miller crooned away on The Old 97's song "Question." Then, at the end, he announced that a guy in the audience had a question for his girlfriend. I'm sure you can figure out the rest of the story. It was pretty romantic and sweet and The Half-breed Swede and I were in awe that the guy had not only planned the whole thing, but also that he got Rhett Miller to do it! How freaking sweet is that??!!??

Still, thinking back on it now, I realize I would have peed myself if A.P. had proposed to me in probably any other way than the way he did, which was quietly, just the two of us, and in the middle of nowhere in the Smoky Mountains (btw, I've oddly enough said this exact same thing before about how I feel about elaborate proposals). Now that I'm on the other side of that whole part of the a relationship, it's easy to know what you'd like/wouldn't like. I watch TV shows now and when I see guys organize these elaborate, crazy proposals, I grin like an idiot and tear up even sometimes, but the whole time, I'm grateful that I'm not that girl. Perhaps it is the fact that I don't like to be the center of attention or that I would kill myself if all eyes at a basketball game were on me, but the thought of being the center of everyone's attention at a large event frightens the bejesus out of me!

Elaborate proposals are still great fun to see played out, though. And I'm always amazed the lengths to which these men go to propose in an unique way. Here are five great proposals, four of which I've featured on Not the Marrying Kind before, and a brand new one which is pretty awesome!

1. Tom meticulously planned a multi-city proposal for Laina that had her fly from Tulsa to Washington DC, where he proposed in the home he bought for them. Then, to celebrate, they flew to Rome. All of it was a surprise and all of it was documented beautifully by Wiley Valentine. (Featured in this post)

2. Matt made a trailer of him asking Ginny's father for her hand in marriage. Then, he got a friend to take Ginny to the movies where he'd arranged for the local theater to show the trailer he'd made. She sat there, not quite knowing what was happening at first, then was amazed to realize that was Matt on the screen. You'll have to watch the ending for the awesome culmination of some excellent planning on Matt's part! (Featured in this post)




3. Ari Gilder, a Google software engineer, designed a scavenger hunt for his bride-to-be using, what else? Google Maps! He chose places that had meaning to the couple. Each time she arrived at a new destination, a friend greeted her with a rose and a quiz question that helped unlock the next location. The final location, of course, had Ari proposing marriage. So rad! (Featured in this post)

4. I was emailed a link to this video, which I'm still almost positive is fake. Fake or not, it's still pretty crazy! Josh faked his own death to propose to Brooke! What the what??!!?? Check out the video below! (Featured in this post.)





5. And for the newest addition...Derick took five days to photograph and edit his beautiful message to Emily. Using a rather large spotlight and a bunch of friends, he did what is called light writing to scrawl his lovely lady a most important message on the cityscape of downtown Raleigh, North Carolina. Talk about intense and amazing! Check out the whole process here.

How do you feel about elaborate proposals? Share your own engagement story in the comments!

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10.11.2011

Fall Fashion Find: Simple Gold Earrings

If you've been a long time reader of this blog, you know my favorite season is fall. And one of the reasons why is because I love the layered fashion and heavy coat-less weather that defines the autumn season. This season, with all my pretty patterns and bold ensembles, I'm loving simple jewelry like this, all of which is priced under $50. Score!

1. Simple circles

2. Simple squares

3. Twisted hoops

4. Thick hoops

5. Infinity Shapes

Which would you wear?

(1 via here; 2 via here; 3 via here; 4 via here; 5 via here)
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