Hey there! It's nice to be back, y'all! Hope you didn't miss me too much! Well, the FILs are gone...thank God! We had A.P.'s brother and his family in town for almost a full week, and it was...interesting. I really felt towards the end that my relationship with A.P. would not survive, which is really uncool. I will spare you all the details, but needless to say that in the future, I think it will be A.P. who entertains them and I will jump in once and a while and show my face. Basically it comes down to the fact that I'm not trying to impress them: I'm okay with who I am and where and how I live. They really were not here to visit (they spent a grand total of 15 minutes at our apartment in the entire week they were here!), they were on vacation and basically happened to be on vacation in the city in which we live. And because of that fact, the whole trip felt like bullshit (to me, anyway), and as you may have figured out, I have a low tolerance for bullshit. Plus they have a kid who they baby and who runs the show, and last time I checked, I'm a grown-ass woman! I don't plan my life around a five year old. And having nannied for many, many years, I won't be a mother who does that either. So...yeah...not the best "vacation." But, I'm back and that's all over, and A.P. and I are now in a much, much better place.
photo by me (A.P. and the dog taking a nap)Anyway, I'm happy to report that I've had a couple of big improvements in the A.P. wedding planning front *and* I've managed to catch up on my blogs, and so there will be a Friday dance this week! Double yay!
So, since last we talked about A.P.'s involvement in the wedding planning progress, he had picked up the Real Simple Weddings issue and flipped through it. That was a month ago or so. He has not picked it up since. Last week though, he comes home and he hands me a newspaper and says, "Here! I thought you might be interested in this. I read it and it's pretty interesting." I look down and the cover article is all about weddings in our city! My first concern was, is my potential venue in there? Because that would really suck. I'd like to think that my potential venue is the best kept secret and the thought of it being featured in a newspaper was kind of scary. But after a quick glance, I sighed in relief since I couldn't find any mention of it anywhere. Anyway, because the FILs were in town, I set the newspaper aside and haven''t looked at it since. Then, the other day, A.P., after having visited a museum with his family, goes, "Did you ever look at that newspaper article that I brought home for you?" I confess, I hadn't. He then goes on to tell me that they featured that museum in the article as one of the big picks for where to have your wedding. Ummm, yeah, it costs $17-35K!! WTF??? Actually, this calls for the real thing: WHAT THE FUCK??? That's a down payment on a house!! Not a cost for a reception venue alone.
Anyway, the story continues because after getting home from work today (my summer gig! sweet! money!), I check my email and there's this NY Times article about weddings. And even bigger than that is that we're going to a Knot sponsored cake tasting event in a couple of weeks. Though, to be fair, we're really just in it for the free cake and wine. (Not the best way to get rid of Hank, but you've got to have some fun, right?)
So, that's a lot of progress in a short amount of time. That's exciting! Plus he gave me a hint about when he was going to officially propose. It's not in December. What a lame ass hint, huh?
hmph, you know my take on children, so I'll reserve comments about your inlaws.....AP seems to be coming around a bit more on the wedding front :-)
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by my blog--I appreciate your kind words. I'm looking forward to learning about how you're "not the marrying kind." Oh my. Hang in there!
ReplyDeleteyeah it's really good to see AP contributing. i know for me, the wedding plans were the last thing i wanted to talk about right next to why gas prices are still going up.
ReplyDeletebut it's a good thing that he's keeping his eye out for certain things. keep it up!
1. the in laws. i decided, like you, that when my parents visit us i am the one who always sees them and michael fades in and out. it's only fair right?
ReplyDelete2. he's sweet-- he brought you a magazine! i guess you can't get too upset with guys who don't get into flowers and favors (mr nichols). we all have our interests and hobbies. also let's see how interested he is after the official engage.
I had to laugh reading about the FIL's. Dealing with the other side gets much easier over time, so hang in there. The more ideas you give them for wonderful things to do and see in the area the better. You won't have to entertain them, and they'll be pleased that you put the time into finding fun things for them to do.
ReplyDelete@sommer: he is coming around more. i think once we actually have a date set and all that jazz, he'll get even more into it. his renewed interest makes me think he's going to pop the question soon...hmm...
ReplyDelete@midwestelle: You should read my first post ever...that explains how i'm not the marrying kind. you'll appreciate who told me that.
@mr.nichols: i think most men would side with you and a.p. my thing is that i don't want to hear in 50 years how he didn't get a say.
@mimi: i hate fading in and out only because a.p. is soooo good with my family. but i think that's how it might have to be. it's totally the wife, btw. she's an odd duck.
@tina t.: i hope it gets easier! those people are rough! haha.