tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post7920797865399978926..comments2023-03-25T04:40:55.210-05:00Comments on <strike>Not</strike> The Marrying Kind...: Shutting Up to Stay SaneMarty J. Christopherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01368924576964912226noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-66460938921581906602010-01-02T15:32:45.616-06:002010-01-02T15:32:45.616-06:00This is such an awesome solution. I wish I could f...This is such an awesome solution. I wish I could figure out how to keep my big mouth shut. <br /><br />P.S. just discovered your blog. I dig it.cupcake weddinghttp://acupcakewedding.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-51677703538525928092009-06-05T12:29:09.166-05:002009-06-05T12:29:09.166-05:00I think it's great that you already realize th...I think it's great that you already realize that there just are some people that won't be happy for you but you seem to not take it personally. I've been happily married for 15 years and the same people who couldn't share my joy then are the same ones that couldn't be happy for us when our children were born or can't be happy for us that we're still happily married. <br /><br />Sometimes you do need to adjust what and how much you share with certain people both to avoid making them uncomfortable and to save yourself the let down of your enthusiasm being met with a blank stare. Just don't let anyone dampen your happiness.AdviceMavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14852334345268216071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-27619292729778238472009-06-05T02:44:18.272-05:002009-06-05T02:44:18.272-05:00What?! A sellout?! What a strange reaction. But th...What?! A sellout?! What a strange reaction. But then you mentioned your bachelor brother and it all makes sense.<br /><br />To each his own. <br /><br />Enjoy this special time.Don't Be a Sluthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17122764044602859402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-8525164059953167432009-06-03T15:44:03.323-05:002009-06-03T15:44:03.323-05:00Again, thanks for all the comments! I think this ...Again, thanks for all the comments! I think this might be a new record in terms of comments! <br /><br />@Liz: Those people on 100 layer cake stole my engagement party idea!! J/k. : O ) I feel the same way about my mother and sister! I agree, though, keeping it between me and A.P. is our best bet.<br /><br />@BellyDanceGirl: Well put!Marty J. Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368924576964912226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-81522104727316480122009-06-03T13:56:35.129-05:002009-06-03T13:56:35.129-05:00Keep a strong head and heart and do what YOU want....Keep a strong head and heart and do what YOU want.BudgetBridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01948115275277155699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-37944770521167600342009-06-03T10:33:43.826-05:002009-06-03T10:33:43.826-05:00Have you seen this yet today? http://100layercake....Have you seen this yet today? http://100layercake.com/blog/archives/1345<br /><br />It's a 'surprise' wedding.zilredlohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10626730299584724606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-15470113613092656642009-06-03T09:58:40.511-05:002009-06-03T09:58:40.511-05:00Yes! In the beginning of my engagement it was jus...Yes! In the beginning of my engagement it was just Felix and myself. <br /><br />The more people ask, the more I don't want to share. And by people I'm referring to my mother, sisters, and (one) aunt. 'People' ask what I'm planning on doing, yet in the end they seem to want to convince me to do something completely different. The best advice I can give you so far is to try and keep everything (decisions etc.) between you and your fiance, but keep sharing with the select few who share your attitude. You need all the positive support you can get. :)zilredlohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10626730299584724606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-11901224356902069892009-06-03T00:54:26.324-05:002009-06-03T00:54:26.324-05:00Thanks everyone for the great comments! Not only w...Thanks everyone for the great comments! Not only were you all very supportive, but everyone seemed to totally understand what I was talking about! <br /><br />@Maiden Metallurgist: Thanks for the kind words! I think it will probably come down to the same thing with my family.<br /><br />@mimi: *I* don't think getting married is selling out. My bachelor brother does. He just never wants to get married, so to him, it's selling out. It's ridiculous. He's crazy. <br /><br />@sommer: That's true! It's exactly like the kids thing. And part of me knows when I had some of my old friends getting married, I didn't care either. Still though, I'm soooo not that kind of bride-to-be. Either way, though, it's good that I at least know my audience. Lol...<br /><br />@surprisewedding: I'm the exact same way! Like I said to sommer above, it's all about knowing your audience. I'm totally comfortable gushing about stupid wedding crap on the internet, but not to people. There's only two people I really talk to about it. I feel like I'm disappointing or annoying everyone when I talk about it if I know they kind of don't care.Marty J. Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368924576964912226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-30688185642174732522009-06-02T23:39:07.899-05:002009-06-02T23:39:07.899-05:00Most definitely. One of the unintended benefits of...Most definitely. One of the unintended benefits of planning a surprise wedding is that once we old our friends and family that we'd posponed the OTHER wedding we were planning in favor of a private destination wedding for just the two of us, the questions stopped. Who knows if the judgment stopped along with it, but at least now people are keeping it to themselves. <br /><br />As much as I enjoy talking about weddings on the interwebs, it makes me very uncomfortable to do so in real life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-62178934840627062632009-06-02T16:55:21.136-05:002009-06-02T16:55:21.136-05:00yes indeed! ONLY people who are getting married(or...yes indeed! ONLY people who are getting married(or family/BFF's, super close to you) want the deets..just like people without kids don't want to hear about Little Janey making poopy for the first time...I don't talk about my wedding unless someone asks specifially and even THEN they still get a cursory response....I figure they're only being polite or making conversationlooking for mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13946002951179141585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-89741483399670749992009-06-02T15:40:56.981-05:002009-06-02T15:40:56.981-05:00absolutely. i was shocked at the advice i got fro...absolutely. i was shocked at the advice i got from people whom i barely know. and the odd advice and comments i never would have expected from close friends. and i am definitely that girl who notices when the other person is not agreed or even really interested. time to take it to the blog. <br />why would getting married be selling out though? please share.mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17626192244211099915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-91504636497906032812009-06-02T15:20:01.271-05:002009-06-02T15:20:01.271-05:00I'm sorry you are getting that kind of flack from ...I'm sorry you are getting that kind of flack from your family. I had a tough time before our wedding because my dad does not like my husband and thinks I'm too good for him, etc., etc., etc. <br /><br />It took a long talk; explaining to my father that I've mede my decision, and his negative input was in no way welcome. He stopped the naysaying and second guessing. <br /><br />My best advice is to be honest, mature, and explicit about the kind of input that is unwelcome.The Maiden Metallurgisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05897256429726150185noreply@blogger.com