tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post6411501535186613062..comments2023-03-25T04:40:55.210-05:00Comments on <strike>Not</strike> The Marrying Kind...: Marriage Mondays: I Like Sex; Is nice.Marty J. Christopherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01368924576964912226noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-67595203349595366662011-06-10T18:24:06.390-05:002011-06-10T18:24:06.390-05:00grandmother is correct. it's what you both ag...grandmother is correct. it's what you both agree to. and everyone lies. i am sure of it. well, maybe not people who say they do it once a month. but the once a day-ers i don't believe them.mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17626192244211099915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-11828707828897250812011-06-07T16:54:48.428-05:002011-06-07T16:54:48.428-05:00@lettuce: I'm totally in agreement, but it is...@lettuce: I'm totally in agreement, but it is sometimes impossible to avoid this trap. <br /><br />@Hiaro: I can only imagine how kids would impact our sex life. <br /><br />@alicia: I think the issue with all of this is that A. we compare ourselves to others, and B. we're always wondering what "normal" is. Your grandmother's advice is right on. I've decided that normal is what works for you, and like you said, if that's every five years, then that's fine. For us though, we've seen a decline. It's frustrating, too, because it is always on our minds, but we are so. tired. all. the. time!Marty J. Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368924576964912226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-75674228296915127242011-06-07T04:47:47.028-05:002011-06-07T04:47:47.028-05:00this is much appreciated... i was just having this...this is much appreciated... i was just having this conversation with a good friend yesterday. She, who has 2 kids, was complaining about not having much sex. For her, this was (I think, reading between the lines) more of a every month or couple of months type thing. <br /><br />we, who have no kids (yet) are lucky if we manage once a week (2-3 times a week Helen and Lindi, I'm so impressed!). Sometimes I start feeling all weird and insecure about that, like what does that mean?! and then sometimes I feel like 'once a week, not bad!' My grandmother, who is 90 and a working therapist who specialises in a lot of sex and gender related stuff says that sex is only an issue if you make it one. some couples have sex every 5 years and that's what works for them, some have sex every day and that's what helps them get through. Good advice, although sometimes hard to follow!alloallohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00715244809039724227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-67808694355212733662011-06-06T22:00:53.448-05:002011-06-06T22:00:53.448-05:00Marty, all I have to say is OLIVIA...the END ...we...Marty, all I have to say is OLIVIA...the END ...well not really the end, but then I'll give you TMI ;-)looking for mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13946002951179141585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-75867050047811603732011-06-06T21:48:14.057-05:002011-06-06T21:48:14.057-05:00I think it is SO true that the less sex you have, ...I think it is SO true that the less sex you have, the less you want it (and vice versa). It's sort of 'use it or lose it' in that regard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-34289825489435585442011-06-06T18:22:35.972-05:002011-06-06T18:22:35.972-05:00@ Musing: I hear you! Cooking, which is something...@ Musing: I hear you! Cooking, which is something I love, is also becoming a chore/bore. I can also totally relate to the idea of the less you have/the less you want to. I feel that way. You sort of realize you can live without it, you know. Which is sad, because you don't necessarily want to! <br /><br />@Helen: That's a good goal, but I don't know if I could keep up with that. Is that bad? I'm still impressed that you can! My friend B-Mac is about the same. I was blown away by her, too!Marty J. Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368924576964912226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-20097363860979539742011-06-06T12:15:25.232-05:002011-06-06T12:15:25.232-05:00Hah. I agree with both of you. We definitely fell ...Hah. I agree with both of you. We definitely fell into the same cycle when we got married: we were so busy and stressed, we started having sex less, and started fighting about it more. It's a bad place to be, but like you, we're working on it. :) Right now, we aim to have sex 2-3 times a week, and on the weeks that we actually do that (not every week!), it is a good balance for us. <br /><br />--HelenHelenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10121429564505659418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-46081398118234068962011-06-06T05:22:12.781-05:002011-06-06T05:22:12.781-05:00Girl, some days I can't even bring myself to g...Girl, some days I can't even bring myself to go buy food when I'm done with a day of work!!!<br />I read, though, that the less you have sex, the less you feel the need/want to so you need to force yourself a little to get out of the vicious circle. But putting sleep on top of your "want to" list, I totally get it!!!Musing on Beautyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07594192030035675016noreply@blogger.com