tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post1393407426609121244..comments2023-03-25T04:40:55.210-05:00Comments on <strike>Not</strike> The Marrying Kind...: Marriage Mondays Tuesday: The SuburbsMarty J. Christopherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01368924576964912226noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-62945423984370370122011-07-28T14:59:15.629-05:002011-07-28T14:59:15.629-05:00@Novice: YES! Finally someone who gets it! : )@Novice: YES! Finally someone who gets it! : )Marty J. Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368924576964912226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-47525568968437259092011-07-28T14:58:28.574-05:002011-07-28T14:58:28.574-05:00TOTALLY with you on this. Besides, being in a gan...TOTALLY with you on this. Besides, being in a gang will probably teach your kids good lessons about teamwork and cooperation!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-14922340110292997312011-07-07T01:28:34.826-05:002011-07-07T01:28:34.826-05:00@lettuce: I'm starting to think that suburban...@lettuce: I'm starting to think that suburban life outside of Chicago is different than others. I've had this convo with some others now and it seems like what people are telling me doesn't represent what suburbs are like here. The thing is, I don't care that people live in the suburbs. And my friend living in the suburbs is fine with me, but I just hate getting treated like a weirdo for choosing to live in the city with kids. <br /><br />@alicialorna: Perhaps London is similar to Chicago and the way things are here? Because what you're describing sounds like my experience. And diversity is a HUGE thing on my list. Everyone at that party we went to was white with the exception of one guy who might have been Hispanic. Our parties and even our wedding was so diverse! My best friends are a huge mix of cultures and ethnicities. Being biracial, it's important to me that our children are exposed to lots of people and lots of cultures, and that doesn't always exist in the suburbs of Chicago.<br /><br />@mimi: I think where you live is more country than suburban, but you are still close to the city. Suburbs in the midwest, are, I'm beginning to think, the pits. I get the safety/comfort thing with kids. However, here, there are also issues in the suburbs that I think are, in some ways, worse. Gangs are just as bad in the suburbs now as they are in the city. I sometimes think if I lived somewhere else, I wouldn't think the way I do about the suburbs. There's something about Chicago...Marty J. Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368924576964912226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-12744334191634683562011-07-06T23:02:48.910-05:002011-07-06T23:02:48.910-05:00people i know who grew up in manhattan are the coo...people i know who grew up in manhattan are the coolest people i know. that being said....<br /> i am sooo on the same page not into the burbs and like the city. BUT now that i have a kid it's like all bets are off when it comes to him being safe and comfortable. i like to think we found a really good compromise where we live. feels a little country but the city is very close. 5 mins close.mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17626192244211099915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-63905056807088961082011-07-06T02:52:08.800-05:002011-07-06T02:52:08.800-05:00This is so true... I find it really dramatic in Lo...This is so true... I find it really dramatic in London, where we currently live. It's like everyone is always implying that living in London is all fine and good for when you're young (which we're not really, at 32 and 38) but when you become a 'real' person you move out not just to the 'burbs but possibly to some sort of english village or market town in the commuter belt. I HATE this. I grew up in berkeley which isn't really suburbs and isn't really city, but has a very cosmopolitan mentality. <br /><br />My friend's kids in the 'burbs/villages are sort of insular on a lot of levels, especially about diversity... I really don't want that for my kids at all, and city kids were always the coolest at my summer camp! Also, I don't really want that for us either, I wouldn't want to feel like the only lefty foreigner in the village...alloallohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00715244809039724227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-18936159060327768422011-07-05T19:03:28.993-05:002011-07-05T19:03:28.993-05:00Duuuuude. We are so on the same wave-length. I was...Duuuuude. We are so on the same wave-length. I was just thinking over the weekend that I needed to write about my experience of living in the suburbs since Dude and I bought our house last year, because it is not at all consistent with what people expect of suburban life. <br /><br />Also: totally love Arcade Fire.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-57994352119525985532011-07-05T16:27:26.215-05:002011-07-05T16:27:26.215-05:00@s + b: Thanks for the kind words! I don't ha...@s + b: Thanks for the kind words! I don't have a problem with people choosing to live in the suburbs at all. I just don't like that people make you feel like a freak if you don't choose that lifestyle. I'm so glad you're loving your life now! I bet your son loves being able to run around, too. I do worry about that. The perk of where I grew up was that I was right across the street from a giant stretch of park, so I could go run and plan quite easily. I definitely want that for our kids in some capacity. I also love the country (not the suburbs) just as much as I love the city. When I was a kid, I would spend large chunks of the year in a small town in the middle of nowhere where my grandmother lived. I hope that one day we can possibly afford a house outside of the city so that our children can enjoy both sides of the divide. : O )Marty J. Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368924576964912226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8902153394142261211.post-58182941199774310002011-07-05T16:01:57.998-05:002011-07-05T16:01:57.998-05:00we just moved into a suburb from the city of kiev,...we just moved into a suburb from the city of kiev, ukraine. honestly, i loved raising our son in a big city, but i also love the perks of living just outside of it. <br /><br />you're a great writer!Gagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08730621516069109010noreply@blogger.com